I think waiting until you are entirely comfortable and entirely certain IS giving him so much more than that. He would not want someone else rushing or pressuring the man he loves into something, he would not want you doing it either.

[Yeah. That doesn't surprise her, but it does make her more solemn, and her next response comes more slowly and more carefully considered.] I have thought the same thing myself before, and let it put distance between me and people. But ultimately, I think...

Do you think he is a good judge of character, intelligent, reasonable, capable of making his own informed decisions about what he does and doesn't want and can and cannot handle?